Copyright (c) 2010 Vin DiCarlo

“I’d like to ask a very simple but important question?

Do you think has everyone has someone in fate?

In addition to this to think about, do you think that everyone has a kind of “fate” or that a man can be hopeless despite of what he desires?

Thank you,” – Arash M. of Okemos, MI

These are really heavy questions, which happen to be my favorite kind.

I don’t spend much time on these types of topics because I don’t think they are useful to think about IN your interactions.

I’m all about having a powerful, useful focus. So doing a lot of navel gazing is just not my style.

However, I believe these questions need to be addressed, because after years of frustration and disappointment, you start to ask yourself,

“Is it worth the effort and heartbreak?”

“Is there someone for me out there?”

“Do I really have control over my dating life, or is all up to chance? Are some guys just born to be lucky, and I am born to struggle?”

I want to begin by pointing out something very obvious, that you may not have thought about in terms of dating.

When you wake up in the morning, you can dress yourself and drive yourself to work.

When you want a sandwich, you can make it without getting mayonnaise all over yourself.

When your faucet is leaking, you can buy a new one and install it with basic instructions.

My point is that all the little things you do on a daily basis are under your control.

However, you can’t control whether or not there will be a traffic jam.

You can’t control how fast the food in your refrigerator spoils.

You can’t control the quality of metal and construction of the faucet in your sink.

But each of these things, you can use your experience and your common sense to estimate how each of this happen, and you can prepare in case things don’t go right.

Although you can’t control the forces that drive the universe, you can work within them, and do well enough that you can survive, and THRIVE by using what you were born with – your mind and body.

One thing I compare pickup to a lot is sports. If you’ve ever played a team sport, you know that every game is different, because you are dealing with many different individuals on the field.

Yet with practice and insight, you can improve your skill so that you can have an OVERALL success rate.

You won’t win or be successful with every match you play, but you can get the odds in your favor, and be generally successful if you make the effort.

It’s the same when meeting women!

And that, to me, answers the question of fate or destiny. We don’t know what will happen tomorrow.

When bad things happen, it’s always unexpected. People don’t TRY to get in accidents or fail in their endeavors.

But in general, bad stuff, accidents, and failure, can be minimized in general, if you use your brain and make the effort to cover your bases.

As for the question of whether there is someone for everyone…

No one is perfect. The odds of you meeting someone you are perfectly compatible with are pretty much zero.

Even if you meet your soul mate, there’s NO WAY you can be with that person your whole life without getting in arguments, and having some problems along the way.

Again, you want to lift your life. You can’t perfect it, but you can OPTIMIZE it.

So to meet a woman that you get along with VERY well, who will love you and treat you as you want to be treated, you must date a lot of women.

The odds that any one girl is going to be close to your ideal have a small probability.

You improve those odds by raising the number of women you meet.

When you improve your skill with women, you will be able to

a) meet a lot of women easily, without having to prepare or fight through a lot of fear b) make choices based in ABUNDANCE. You can be PICKY.

Most people end up in relationships because they are afraid they can’t do any better.

And remember – we all have our crosses to bear. If you have had frustrations in the past, that’s life. Another man who has been with a lot of women has his OWN crosses to carry, his own fears and struggles, just in different way of life.

4 Tips For Attracting Girls

Humor in and of itself is not the proven method for attracting women. When humor is used skillfully, the results are phenomenal. Women LOVE to laugh. They love to have fun. They love to tease and to be teased. The skill is in knowing how, when, and how much humor to use.

Use your body language. Your words account for about 7% of your conversation. Your body language accounts for about 80%, with facial expression and tone of voice accounting for the other 13%. Women are constantly reading people. No, they can’t read your mind, but they are naturally intuitive about people. It’s in their genes. Be relaxed in your body language. This includes smiling, making eye contact, laughing, leaning toward her, and so forth. All the humor in the world won’t do you a bit of good unless she knows that it’s meant for her.

Be a bit of a show off. Everyone knows who’s the show off in the room. Believe it or not, women are attracted to this, as long as it’s not mean-spirited or used too much. Women like this trait because they are drawn to someone who can take charge of a situation. They also like to be with someone who’s smart. How does being a show off do that? When you can attract everyone’s attention and make people laugh at outrageous things you come across as friendly. That talent means that you’re fun to be with, you’re not boring, and you know where the lines of decency are. Therefore, you’ll be fun, adventurous, and will respect her.

Be playful with her. Playing around with your mates is ok, but when it comes to women, a lot of guys turn into jelly. Women like to play, too. They like the challenge of the game. Remember, she’s there for a reason, too. She loves to banter back and forth, as long as it’s kept fun and light.

Make her the center of your attention. Women love it when you focus on them. When you’re being funny in a crowd, focus some of that humor on her in a positive way. Compliment her laugh or smile. Say she has a great sense of humor. If you feel daring, challenge her to a battle of wits. Be careful with this last one. It can cut both ways. Remember to keep things positive and lavish the attention on her.

Humor is one of the easiest and most revealing tools you can use. You not only have some fun yourself, but you’ll find out about her sense of humor as well. She may be an introvert who doesn’t know how to have fun, or she may be fun-loving free spirit. Which one would you choose? You’ll know when you use humor.

Twitter’s been ALL the rage, recently… I figured… well, since I can pickup several girls a week using Facebook and MySpace, why can’t I use Twitter to do the same?Being the online pickup master that I am… I invented a little Twitter tactic that helped me get LAID. Keep reading because YOU can use this exact same tactic to increase your chances of success with women online.I call it the “Come Hither” routine… sounds cheesy, I know… but don’t laugh until you’ve tried it.Now, this is one of my more “underhanded” techniques… some of you may not like it, but it WORKS.Now… make a new “Tweet” and say…”Going to meet a FAMOUS CELEBRITY today… need one more person to come with!”I guarantee you will get women flocking to your page… but as soon as you get an inquiry from a girl you dig, message her back saying, “Kk… call me really quick! My number’s…”Give her your number.She’ll call.Then on the phone, start off with a phone-neg. Something like… “Whoa, you sound like a total dude today. Are you okay?”Proceed to say that some girl already sniped that ticket before she did. She’ll most likely protest… and ask you DESPERATELY who the celebrity was.At this point, it doesn’t really matter what happens next… you’ve now built value… AND you have her on the phone!I have a TON of these tactics in my program.And only for a VERY, VERY limited time, you can try out my program for FREE.You heard right.

A Romantic Tale About An Unromantic Hero

There was once a man who did not understand society. And when I
speak of this man, who regards society as an unfathomable
monster, understand that I am universally speaking of every
individual thinker. But there was one particular man, one man
among them, who did not understand society. And what separates
him from the other individual thinkers was his unavowed lust for
love, his desire for affection, and his outright honesty in it.
He was, in many ways and like other thinkers, a hero. And though
his understanding of social romance may be below par, it cannot
be denied that his journey for love is as romantic as they
become.

Our hero is named Cassidy, and our journey takes us to the
bars, pubs, and clubs of America, the raves and hangouts,
anywhere there is lurking a girl for our hero’s affections.
Unlike the other lovers, looking for a score or a companion,
Cassidy was in these clubs and bars because, as he explained to
himself many a time, he was human. It was his devotion to truth
and honesty that made him an unlikely character in this scene.
He had no fear, which allowed this truth and honesty to shine
forth even in threatening situations. As a career, Cassidy was a
janitor. He worked at a mall, cleaning things up, clearing off
tables in the food court, picking up garbage. He wasn’t bothered
by it at all. Making $2.00 above minimum wage per hour, he lived
a very restrained lifestyle.

There was one club, Club Down And Out, which was frequented by
our friend Cassidy. There were casual contacts here, as well as
friends and lovers made. One man would hit on a woman with,
“You’re fine, I’m fine, why don’t we leave this place and do
something about it?” Cassidy might overhear, and he would be
confused. It was completely understood what the man wanted, but
the way he presented himself, beneath the shawl of lies, was
what confused Cassidy. Sure, it may be true that such pickup
lines as, “Nice shoes, wanna fuck?” among others might be
outdated and rarely used. But according to Cassidy, though the
pickup lines changed, the attitude was just as antiquated.

Cassidy had heard enough, sometimes being approached by men and
women, sometimes seeing men approach women and women approach
men, or men approach men and women approach women, and the
pickup lines that he had heard were nothing attractive. Some
were succesful and some were failures, but they all were full of
a superficiality that was completely inhuman in quality to him.
The time was to act, and the object of affection was a girl
sitting in a booth by herself. She had dreadlocks, thick and
natural, which may have been the thing to catch Cassidy’s eye.
Anything that would separate itself from this unreal reality
would be sexy to him. Dreadlocks and a Dead Kennedies shirt. He
sat down in the booth next to her. She looked up.

“Will you talk to me, because like every human, I long for the
physical touch of intimacy, I cherish the moments of reverence
manifested through our acts, I hold kindled affection to be a
supreme act of kindness. Will you be one with me, because only
my human desires drive me to be with you, one so beautiful and
individual as yourself. And you, like me, are only human, so the
urge cannot vary greatly between us.”

The girl got up from the booth and started to walk away.
Cassidy continued talking.

“Will you love me, the way I want to love you, because your
body is the poetry of life, because your face is a gem, because
I know that the passion you have is one incomparable. Because,
like every human, you are an individual, and I love you for
that.”

She was in the crowd, disappeared, out of sight.

“Will you give to me that one kiss, that one moment, that one
night, so that I can forever remember the smell of your soul,
the taste of your body, the lingering desire to forever be in
your arms? Will you hold me close so that I only feel your flesh
and body heat, so that there is nothing to distract me from the
beauty of one so outside of society’s grasp, so that I will know
nothing but the pure bliss of yourself?”

She had walked ten miles away.

“Can I sit here forever, staring into your eyes, not forgetting
that there is nobody like you? Will you give me your time, so
that I can offer you my body and love? Will you give me your
lust, so I can fufill it and offer you my own? Will you give me
the precious pearls of your mind and body, so that I may give
your security in comfort, life in sex, and happiness in
existence?”

She was in another city.

“Will you let me caress your stomach, kiss your neck, nibble
your thighs, give to you that one last kiss shared between the
angel of loneliness and the daemon of misery? I do not want to
be a lost child, looking forever, allowing every flower to pass
me by, the indulgence of charity given only to myself, and I do
not want to pass by another flower, smelling so sweet in the
summer air, just as beautiful as the last one down. To pass one
as yourself, to be given to a realm of regrets equally as a
realm of mistakes.”

She was in another state.

“Give me a moment’s tenure, and I will give you everything.
Emotion like none other, truth inscribed on the long lasting
heart of humanity, the tangible pleasures of our reality
lighting the candles of our existence. Let me touch your face so
that I can show you what I mean. Give to me that one chance of
kindness and reverence. Don’t let me sink into the dark abyss of
nothingness — I am not a nobody, and I would not want to be
passed up. I can give you only what any other human being can
give you, love and desire, fermenting in the barrel of
loneliness, given the soft glow and illuminating light of a
beautiful and passionate sight as yourself. And all the lovers
that you’ve had before, were just as sincere in their sensuality
as I am, were just as real in their body as I am, were just as
alive as I am here today. Awakened, with lust and vitality, to
find something too valuable to give, to find someone too
valuable to leave, to discover something deep inside all of us,
that makes us all the same, as I desire for your touch in a way
that only any other can desire. It is this reason that I ask for
you to give me that chance…

Q: What is your largest sex organ?

A: Your skin.

Remember: “The whole body can be an erogenous zone, given the right touch, mood and setting.”

In order to become a real pro, the first thing I’ll recommend you to do is to receive a full body massage yourself. Make an appointment with an experienced professional so that you know you will receive skilled care, with no sexual expectations or motivation. (Get personal recommendations) This is about treating yourself, learning to receive. The experience of receiving, as in all aspects of life, is also a great education for when it is your turn to give.

When preparing for your seduction night, it will help if you have a firm bed, cushions a mattress on the floor and soft sheets or towels. It’s key that the three of you are comfortable. If you have the possibility of getting a massage table then even better. It’ll be very useful for future seduction nights and will enhance also your sex life. We have one and it has worked for us incredibly. They’re not expensive, you can get one for less than $250.00.

Make sure you have a variety of sensual massage oils. Warm your oils by standing the bottles in warm water or the microwave. You will need oil or lotion so that your hands don’t pull the skin and to make the experience as pleasurable as possible. Using oils it’s just another excuse to undress fully.

Once your friend is naked (at least her back) take a few deep breaths to centre yourself and apply your chosen oil blend to your warmed hands and then softly rest them on their upper back. (you are at their head) Start with a long, slow, oiling stroke. Don’t be afraid to move your hands away to add more oil as a moment without contact can increase anticipation of the next delightful touch.. or perhaps you prefer to drip the oil on their expectant skin! If so make sure it’s warm!

Remember: this is going to be a 4 hands massage! You must focus on her back and your wife or girlfriend should focus on her legs. This is less threatening for her and she’ll feel more relaxed. Start with light pressure and increase it. Travel down the centre of the back from neck to tail then let your hands slide to either side and ease back up to the top. Repeat this type of stroke many times. Avoid direct pressure on the spine. Now vary the pressure, speed and types of stroke. Use the spread of your palms, fingertips and thumbs, knuckles and forearms. Slow down. Do it again and again Focus on each part of the back: shoulders, muscles along the sides of the spine, lower back. The inside of her elbows. This part of her body is very, very sensitive. Start on the inside of her elbows and work your way outward.

At the same time the female on the seducing couple should start doing her feet. Her toes. Massage them if you’re a bit daring Kiss them. Nibble them. Hold them close to your face Let her know you really like her feet. Oil her legs. Give lots of attention to her inner thighs, hips and feet, while your husband grabs the muscles on top of her shoulders and back of her neck.

Dry your hands a little and massage her scalp, and tug her hair gently. Let her feel your four hands all over her back and body. If you feel she’ll not object, remove the towel on top of her buttocks and let your wife start gently massaging her ass. Communicate pleasure or discomfort with words, sounds or signals. Leave aside all other conversation!

Make sure neither of you touches her pussy yet! But feel free to spread her ass and massage her between her legs and in her inner thighs. Communicate pleasure or discomfort with words, sounds or signals. Leave aside all other conversation.

After a while of massaging her, she’ll be putty in your hands. Ask her to turn around and quickly cover her pussy with a towel leaving only her breasts uncovered. Again The male in the seducing couple should start massaging her arms, avoiding her breasts, while the female on the seducing couple massages her feet and legs. Let him smooth oil down over her chest, breasts and belly down the centre and up the sides as on the back. Including arms, armpits and hands some more!

While you’re doing her upper body let your wife move around her legs and slowly approach her legs underneath the towel. Carefully remove the towel and continue to massage her legs approaching her pussy.

This will be a vital transition! (Specially if your wife or girlfriend has never been with another woman). It’s time for her to massage her pussy. Even if neither of the females has had a lesbian experience, your invited friend will feel more comfortable having her being close to her pubis than having him. By letting her massage her inner thighs and pussy both women will feel more sexually comfortable with each other.